You might doubt yourself often, but it’s actually pretty pointless. So how do you get rid of it?
First of all: doubting yourself isn’t necessarily bad. But it is pointless — it doesn’t make your life better, and it doesn’t help you in any way. It’s a waste of your precious time and energy.
One important realization is this: you are not your thoughts. After all, you don’t control which thoughts pop into your head. But you do control how you respond to them and what you choose to do with them.
So when a thought like “I’m not good enough for this” shows up, you can simply say to yourself: “Ah, there’s that self-doubt again. I’m going to ignore it — because I am good enough. I’m just going to do my best.”
Try not to compare yourself to others. There will always be someone who is smarter, prettier, taller, shorter, or richer. Instead, compare yourself to your past self. Are you kinder than you used to be? Then you’re already successful.
Also remember: when people say out loud that you’re not good enough, they’re usually insecure themselves. They want to shift attention away from their own doubts. In fact, they probably have at least as much self-doubt as you do. So don’t judge them either — focus on yourself. And if you can do that, be proud of yourself right away.
And finally: look at the hard facts.
If you’re not receiving criticism, your work is good enough.
If you haven’t been fired, you’re doing well at your job.
If you have friends, you’re kind and fun enough.
Keep thinking positively about yourself!